“Doubt yourself and you doubt everything you see. Judge yourself and you see judges everywhere. But if you listen to the sound of your own voice, you can rise above doubt and judgment. And you can see forever.” ~Nancy Lopez
You and I, we judge others. And they judge us. We all do it. Sometimes we judge with positive or non-harming intentions.
Unfortunately, our judgment often comes from a negative place, with darker intent.
Why Do We Judge?
Though we judge for many reasons, we often do it when:
- We don’t know a person well (yet)
- We cannot identify with a person’s belief system, values, or behavior
- That person somehow threatens how we perceive ourselves
I believe we judge for the first reason because our minds want to simplify the processing of information by putting environmental clues into categories. This just makes things so much easier, doesn’t it?
For me personally, when I judge for the second and third reasons, I have especially negative emotions and thoughts toward others.
I try hard not to judge, and have been doing so less and less, but I still have a ways to go.