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Don’t Mistake My Kindness As A Weakness.

I’m a nice girl. In fact, I was raised by my parents to be one. I believe many girls were raised the same way.

When I was a little girl, both parents and teachers were telling me how I should behave. Respect everyone, be polite, don’t say bad words… And I did. Well, I still do.

I always try my best to be kind and not to hurt people. Honestly, I feel way better when I’m kind to others. Being mean is just not my style.

But, there is one thing that makes me freak out sometimes… I’m sick and tired of people seeing my kindness as my weakness.

No, I’m not weak if I let my friend cry on my shoulder at 2 AM. No, I’m not weak if I give my seat to an elderly person.  No, I’m not weak if I treat and respect waiters the way I respect my boss.

I always try to go through bad times with a smile on my face. I try to express my opinions without hurting anyone’s feelings. It’s just who I am.

I’m not saying I’m perfect, because nobody is. I have made so many mistakes in life, just like everyone else has. I have a bunch of flaws.

If you’d meet me more often, you’d know me better. I can be so insecure and exhausted sometimes, but that definitely doesn’t mean I’m weak.

Nice girls are much stronger than society thinks. It takes so much courage to find strength to be good around toxic people. No matter how hard people try to bring me down, I will shine brighter. I will always find strength in me.

I try to live my life to the fullest. I have goals and plans, and I’m keen about pursuing them.

Being nice doesn’t mean I will let you take advantage of me. Growing up, I learnt my lesson. I decided that I won’t let anyone be mean to me just because I’m nice. I will definitely fight back.

Just because I’m sweet, it doesn’t mean I will be quietly putting up with your bullshit.

Listen, I’m not foolish. It took me all of my life to stand up for myself. I realized that I must love and accept myself in order to be respected by others. I’m still learning to say “NO” and to stop feeling bad after I say it out loud. I have my flaws and weaknesses, just like everyone else.

Maybe this is wrong, but I tend to judge people based on their behavior towards others. I don’t like being in a company of people who seek a better position simply by walking over others.

I don’t want to be surrounded by people who are bothered with my kindness. I have no plans to change for anyone’s sake!

We need to stop treating niceness as some kind of disorder. I’m so tired of everyone’s misunderstanding.

I believe being nice doesn’t mean, you let yourself be degraded. I assure you—I’m not the one who will guard your back if you repeatedly disrespect me. I have my limits. I’m nice, but not stupid.

3 thoughts on “Don’t Mistake My Kindness As A Weakness.”

  1. Such a powerful post. People used to take my kindness for being weak as well. I was bullied from grade six until I finally switched schools during my senior year. It got so bad that I attempted suicide at age 14 and almost didn’t make it. But luckily I survived the attempt and now, I use what I went through to help those who are bullied today. I believe in turning negatives into positives and if I can help one, just one bullied victim see their worth and go on living, then I know what I endured all those years ago wasn’t in vain. And I get healing and closure from it. To this day, I fail to understand what makes people think they can just walk over the best and kindest people. I realize that they do it for several different reasons, but why? Maybe it’s just that I don’t think like they do, nor was raised like they were. Thank you so much for speaking out. Continue to take care of yourself and to set boundaries.

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